Can Your Relationship Survive the Long Distance?

So I was watching an episode of "How I Met Your Mother" and there was a male main character (just started watching so don't know every one's name) who was dating this woman for two months.  Things were going great until she got a job offer across the world.  Of course they weighed the pros and cons and at the end they decided to call it quits as she decided to take the job.  Well at the end of the episode they changed their minds because due to the fact that they felt they were perfect for each other they decided to try long distance.  Now even though you may not hear allot about long distance relationships across the world, you will definitely hear about them states apart.  My personal opinion is that either way it goes it can work but it depends on the commitment level of the relationship

Two months for instance is when you are taking the time to get to know someone and during this time you may not have a strong enough bond to hold you two together when your long distances apart.  Now lets say you have been with this person for a year or more, I truly believe if your bond is strong enough and you have a mental connection and not only physical then your long distance relationship will work.  Remember, when your far away from each other that means you have to put in more effort to stay connected.  This means more phone conversations and letters telling each other things that are going on day to day.  Don't think because your letter is 10 pages long that your significant other will get bored, instead they will appreciate the fact that you are sharing things with them and they will feel like they never left.  You must also remember to tell your significant other how you feel about them as this will keep both parties motivated to stay connected.  Temptations may occur but as long as you stay focused on what's important in regards to your relationship then you will be fine.

You're probably wondering, "Well how does she know this if she hasn't experienced it herself?"  Actually I have, myself and my fiance currently made six years together but within our second year together we were apart for over a year.  During this time we stayed connected with letters and phone calls detailing our day to day lives and we always made sure to tell each other how much we loved each other.  We were at a point  where our bond was so strong that distance was not the determining factor in tearing us apart.  When we finally came back together we realized it has just made us stronger as a couple.

Remember, if you really want something to work it can or at least you should try to put forth the effort.  You will not be apart forever so a little time apart shouldn't break you, it should actually make you stronger as a couple.

Stay Fab!